So, I did make a 'new year's resolution', mostly because I felt it needed to be done for the sake of sanity. Mine was:
Do NOT scream at E. Anymore. Ever again.
yelling, well, that's another story, and frankly I doubt I will ever be able to not yell at him, especially in an emergency. But the fact was his screaming meltdowns were leading to me screaming back, and it was just not good. For my throat, my sanity, or his happiness. Or my happiness, for that matter. So I stopped. It's been really good. He's still a champion screamer, especially at 3am (sorry neighbours. really, we are so sorry) but at least it's not a reaction to me and I feel a lot more in control dealing with his random meltdowns. So I'm thinking maybe a monthly resolution would be a good idea. I'm just going to try to think one up in the next few days.